My girlfriend has recently moved in with me. She has 2 sons that are with us every other week. I have a 12 year old son who I have every other week as well and I have a 16 year old daughter that is with me full time. The first mistake I made was moving her in as quickly as I did. We were only together for a few months when I asked her to move in. I asked both of my children how they felt before I asked her and they were both happy. My son absolutely adores her. My daughter initially really liked her. They would spend time together doing girl things. Everything seems to have changed over night. I have no idea what happened. When I tried to talk to her, she just cries and tells me that she doesn't hate her but she doesn't want her in our house. She says that she feels like she's living with strangers. She tells me that she doesn't like my girlfriend but won't give me any details. When I ask her why or what she has done to make my daughter not like her, she replies with "I just don't like her. It just feels that way.". She won't give me any reasons for the way she feels. My second mistake was asking my girlfriend to move out after talking with my daughter. My daughter has been through a lot. My ex-wife, who has been mother to my daughter since she was 2, was not the best of mothers. She caused a lot of emotional damage to my daughter that I wasn't aware of until recently. So when she came to me with all this, my first reaction was to do whatever she wanted to make her happy. Within a day of asking my girlfriend to leave, I decided I had made a mistake and told her not to leave. I talked with my daughter and told her that I didn't understand what she was going through but that I want to. I told her that we are going to see a counselor to help get through this. I told her that I was not going to make my girlfriend move out. Needless to say, she hates me and now of course my mother is pounding on me as well telling me that I am destroying my family. I need help. I have no clue if I am doing the right thing or not. I love this woman and she is an amazing woman and mother. I think that she would be an incredible role model for my daughter. She is nothing like my ex-wife which is part of what I think is going on. I think my girlfriend is so different than my ex-wife, my daughter thinks she is fake. Am I doing the right thing? I don't want to lose my girlfriend or my daughter.
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