My near 14 year old hung out with a bad group last year. As soon as he started hanging out with him his attitude changed. I found out he had drunk and smoked a number pot a number of times. He got into a fight with a younger boy which went on social media. He had a break from this group and he went back to his normal self. He went back to hanging out with this group when school went back and we are back to walking on egg shells because he is so angry. I believe (or I could be gullible) that he last smoked about 4 weeks ago. He is disrespectful to me and physical with my younger boy when he stirs him. Treats me like he doesn’t like me. I’ve now been told by a number of people that the group he is hanging with some are dealing pot. The problem is he is so into this group. I’ve pushed him into sport 3 afternoons a week plus sport on Saturday. I think I need to limit his time to weekends only with group as I believe he is will rebel if I try to stop him totally. I’m a single mum. I cant call on his dad as he is verbally threatening. It’s been on and off problems now for 9 months. I’m struggling. He knows he has anger but doesn’t want me to get any help for him. I need some help and guidance of what to do or who I can see. Thanks ... View more

Sorry long post.  My son is 13.  He started High School this year.  He has been in trouble numerous times (5-6) with the school in recent months with warnings and suspension and in trouble once again yesterday.  I believe him by what he says, the school has said and others have said that he does not start but he cannot control his emotions so he has been in trouble for grabbing someone's arm, tripping someone over, etc.  I won't say he is perfect.  I know he is not going out of his way to start these issues.  1 particular boy has bullied him since year 3 but he has been able to handle it with his words.  This year I believe he's been pushed to his limits.  He feels like no one at school has his back. He feels the teachers hate him. I got a phone call from the bully's mum over the weekend as my son and his friend have rode past calling names out to the bully.  My son knocked on their door and ask to speak to the bully as he had called his friend a name (as he didn't care what he got called).  He got into a texting war with someone else which started before holidays and continued on Monday getting him a loss of phone at school (not a bad thing) and disconnection of internet at school. He lashes out at me as no matter how I bring these phone calls from the school up with him he says you don't believe a word I say.  He has been calling me names.  Being disrespectful.  He has changed dramatically and very suddenly. He is acting tough.  He's got attitude. He is angry.  He is emotional at times.  He talks about suicide mostly when things have blown up.  I'm a single mum.  I'm struggling with this behaviour.  His dad has threatened to move him in with him which he would not want and either would I.  We've had numerous talks with him but the next day if something happens it goes out the window.  I feel anxious of him going to school because I'm just waiting for the next phone call. I get worried that if he gets pushed too far with all of this will he do something to harm himself.  He is al about his friends and spending time with them and not me. I don't feel comfortable with the new group he is getting around with.  I work full time so I can't  control until I get home around 5pm each day.  He is addicted to his electronics.  I have been getting the support of my partner and his dad.  I am at my wits end.  I'm just hoping once again that he doesn't make another stupid mistake.  We've instructed him to call us should anything happen so we can guide him rather than he handle the situation.  I am looking for help or guidance or someone who can relate. He's never been a bad boy.  He just is not thinking.  He is just reacting which is getting himself into a lot of trouble.  Thank you for any help you can give.  ... View more