I need some advice re my 14 year old. He has always been a, really good kid, never given me any concerns. Just in the last six months I've found out he's been vaping with friends. I recently found a vape device in his bed, which he said wasn't his and he was "just looking after it for someone" As far as I knew he'd returned it to the owner but I still can smell vape fragrance in his room from time to time. I've also found cigarette filters in his room and he lied about those too, and he's also had permission to stay at a friend's house, and only that house, and then gone to a different house, one with very relaxed rules around drinking and boys and girls sharing the same sleeping space He's very keen to know if I'm going out to the gym or anywhere each day and if I do go out he always needs to know how long I'll be. I need to work out how to shut down the dishonest behaviour without pushing him to become even more sneaky and deceptive. Any thoughts?
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