Hi, I'm interested in what other families are doing out there. I have a 15 & 13 yr old (girls). We had unlimited wi-fi for their phones/devices and placed time limits during school days of 0800-1500 where they could not access phones, then they had to be placed on the bench where they could check them but could not 'be on them' from 4pm until 7pm when they could have them for 2hrs until 9pm before they are plugged away from bedrooms. Things were a little more relaxed on week-ends. My 15 yr has been angry about this arrangement so I gave them unlimited time periods daily but changed their plans to using their data (which I pay for ) of 10gb per month. In the hope they learn to manage their time. The younger has been able to manage and the older has not. Do you think this plan is harsh? I'm finding no matter what I do they are just on them as much as possible & for the 15 yr old nothing I do is enough. They had a residual credit of data approx 40GB each & the 15yr old went through, called her Dad who questioned why I was not giving them unlimited wi-fi... My partner is so irate about all usage & we cannot find a happy medium which is causing a lot of stress, anger & resentment, my 15yr old now tells me she doesn't want to live here & hates my partner. I want to throw it all out the window lol, but I'm conscious that they need the connection with their friends at the moment! Advise is greatly appreciated as I am really lost.
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I got a call from the school of my teen 14/15 F and they said she had been in to see them saying she’s distressed at home and that she is walking on eggshells around my partner, that he yells at her etc. Things were pretty good on a whole until on holiday miss teen was left to explore the hotel with her sibling for an hr and was found on our return still on the bed in hotel on iPad sending messages to BF. So internet was stopped on holiday and the angriness started her and my partner ignored each other making it hard for me to connect with either of them. It continues when home and last day of holidays hours were spent on Snapchat. So, restrictive measures where put in place, 2 hrs on ph and 1 hr on iPad per day with cut off times at bedtimes. This has spiraled miss teen into a surly person who won’t talk. I’ve trued to encourage partner and her to meet half way. My partner is very rigid in his thinking... anyway back to the call from school. We’re concerned at where that may go now, I’ve talked to her about the big picture here. I’ve also told her that her contributions in the relationship and family determine the outcome. My partner has decided to switch off very angry and hurt she’s complaining to people outside of home about her welfare. I’m at a loss of what to do.
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