Hi - my son turns 15 tommorrow. He is a lovely boy, loved by all who know him but doesn't have a huge amount of friends. He hangs out in a group at school but really only has 2 real mates who he likes to do things with outside of school. His best friend from primary school (they don't go to same high school) and one at my son's current high school. Over the past year his friend from primary school has started drinking and smoking dope. Once we were aware of this we put in place rules around only supervised catch ups etc. We thought his parents had got things under control (they said he wasn't taking drugs anymore) and late in the school holidays allowed one unsupervised visit (about a month ago). This resulted in him coming home high on hash brownie. Fortuntately he didn't enjoy the experience, he was punished (accepted very calmly and reasonably) and seemed to understand when we explained that he was not going to be able to hang out with that boy anymore (also explained this to the other parents). However, this weekend my son got very upset saying he wanted to hang out with this mate, he has no friends etc. Once again we've explained the reasons why, we're organising more activities for him to keep occupied etc. My question is - by banning access to the friend are we making him more attractive? I just don't know what to do otherwise. Wouldn't continuing allowing supervised visits only lead to unsupervisied visits even if it was a year away. Help!!
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