Hi @Ajsmumma thank you for reaching out and sharing your situation with us I'm really sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing with your daughter at the moment. It sounds like you have been through a lot together, supporting her through her mental health issues and experiences with bullying. It's understandable that you feel exhausted and worn down by the challenges you've been facing. I can imagine how tough it must be for you as a parent to deal with the behaviours your daughter has been displaying recently. Such challenges can put a strain on the parent-child relationship. It's completely understandable that you’re feeling hurt, rejected, and disconnected, especially when you've been there for her through so much. Parenting is a really tough job, and it's natural to feel overwhelmed and unsure at times. I am sorry to hear that counselling hasn’t been much help to you during this time. Besides your counsellor, do you have anyone supporting you at the moment? Such as a friend or family member?  I wanted to share some articles that might be helpful to you. We have one on how to talk to your teen about vaping and another on effective communication with teens. We also have a free one-on-one parent coaching service that you can access here if you’re interested.    Remember to be patient with yourself. Parenting is a continuous learning process, and no one has all the answers. You're doing the best you can, and your efforts as a caring parent are invaluable. Focus on taking care of yourself and finding moments of respite, even if they're brief. Celebrate the small victories and the times when you do feel hopeful or happy, even if they seem fleeting. ... View more

Hello @Ajsmumma , thanks for updating us here on the forums. Sorry to hear that the past 24 hours have been tough for you. It sounds like the discussion with your daughter did not go as planned. Feeling triggered and hypervigilant about your daughter doing something must be tough feelings to sit with. You mentioned that you believe your daughter is safe and that you had planned to check in with her. How is she going at the moment? Do you have any current concerns for her safety?   It sounds like it can be hard to enforce boundaries and challenge your daughter for concerns of how she would react, which sounds quite understandable. It must be quite hard for you to manage this. You mentioned that your daughter is receiving some professional support at the moment, do they know the details of what she has been going through lately?   It sounds like things are quite overwhelming for you at times. Caring for others can sometimes take a big toll on our ability to care for ourselves. Do you have any professional supports at the moment? If you feel like you ever want to talk to someone about what you are going through there are services like Beyond Blue or Parentline that can support you through this . ... View more