Thank you reaching out.... It's comforting to hear thoughts from other Moms. I feel so helpless. I have yet to hear from her, or my ex-husband, so maybe the move to Florida will happen..... My advice to you is "tough love." I spoiled my daughter, because she was all that I had, and feel that I am paying the price now.
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Hi, new here... I have been a single Mom to my daughter, (have full custody) who is now almost 16. Her father and I divorced when she was almost 3. He is a police chief and has never supported her , (no child support), and seen her at the most once a month, but never would have her over. She has longed for his attention. It has been a hard time, supporting her, and I spoiled her as I tried to make up for her pieces of life she was missing. Within the last 2 years, she has developed a very strong hatred towards me, if I am in the same room, she tells me to leave, she says she hates me, shut up, don't talk to me, and when her friends are over they ridicule me, intentionally do things to upset me, breaking things in my home, which I ignore, and go to my room and cry. I try so hard to get through this, but found it growing worse when it came to showing authority to her. Two weeks ago she had not slept for 36 hours, because of playing video games all night, and had her best friend over, she then asked if she could have more friends over, I said "another time", you really need to sleep. She went off the handle, everytime I tried to enforce rules, or not give her, her way, she texts her Dad-which escalates the situation. I had a counseling appt for her but she refused to get out of the vehicle. So at this point again, she moves into her Dads, she has done this twice this year for apx a week at a time. My exhusband has always said, "you know she will live with me as a teen." When she left she said, "I have always hated you. You will not see me get married, never see your grandkids when I have them." Her hatred for me is so deep. I seen her last night to give her the Xbox, and she again was very mean. Upon leaving, I received a text from my exhusband stating that if I come back to the house, I will be charged with criminal trespass to residence. (I told him in the past that I will take this matter to court, and he said, "Go ahead, I know every judge in the state.") Her best friend, is extremely rich, and hates her Dad, (whom she calls Kyle), and says all the time she wants to kill him. I believe Lex is feeding off of this. I feel like I am outnumbered. I can't stop crying, my hands are so tied. I recently received a job offer in Florida, I'm in Illinois. I so want to take it to break free from their control. Is this selfish, I just want to live again. Please give your honest advice...
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