Hello I have a son who is 15.  He doesn't respect me in a way that I feel I deserve.  We also don't have a close connection anymore.  His Dad can never do wrong and uses his stature and voice to get him to listen.  I don't like yelling and also came from a violent background.  My husband never lays a hand on him but I think the emotional abuse and agressive isn't how I want our son to learn.     My husband and I have have been arguing a lot and most of it is on the way we do things differently with the children.  We have a daughter 13 and it is like boys vs girls.  Even if we are arguing my son will take his side and parrot some of the things my husband says about me under his breathe.  He thinks I don't follow through and that is why they don't respect me.     He thinks our problems are the kids, but I don't agree.  I find the mental abuse (maybe it isn't and I am just sensitive) hard.  I have low self esteem and both boys make it feel lower.  I love them both.  I want my relationship with my son to improve.  I am not sure where to start.  He thinks I nag him to do stuff.   ... View more