I have a partner who has 2 boys to different mothers. The 5 year old lives with us fulltime and the 11 year old with his mother and we see him every school holidays. We also have a 2 year old daughter together. When we first got together (we'd known eachother for 10 years or so before hand), the now 5 year old was with his mum half and dad the remaining half. His ex was always in some sort of trouble qhether it be cars, moving, anything really, and my partner always helping out where he could for the sake of his son. I was never ok with this However his son meant the world to him so I accepted... one night she didn't show up and we get a call from the police saying she's been arrested and will be going to jail. She's gone off and had 2 other children and abandoned her son since. This son has all sorts of issues as I'm sure is understandable given his early years however he yells at you instead of talking, interrupts every conversation, wails when he doesn't get his way or will persevere until he does (my partner usually gives in at the 20th request) he's always touching my partner and our daughter and sometimes inappropriately which I have absolutely no tolerance for no matter if it is innocent or not. He almost suffocates everyone with his presence. He is extremely hard to be around and is causing me some real anxiety to a point where I'm taking medication and seeking counselling. My partner says that I just need to chill out and let him be a kid. And the problems lie with me and I need to sort it out. I'm so confused as to whether it really is me that's the problem here and this is just what kids do at that age etc. I'm struggling big time and I'm ready to take my daughter and leave, but mostly for fear of her taking on all his traits! ... View more

Hi, I have been with my partner exclusively for 3 years (now engaged and have a 7 month old daughter together). My partner also has two sons from different mothers. ( one 4 year old and one 9 year old - both managed to get pregnant at the same time their relationship was / had ended). We saw the kids every weekend - the 9 year old gave me hell and made it known he didn't want me around but he managed to grow to like me after 7 months of drama). Both mothers packed up their lives and left their kids behind so they are now living with us full time. The boys are consistently rude , the 4 yr old ignores me morning and night and mine and my partners rules / patience is alot different so they can get away with everything. I'm at the stage where I need to leave but my daughter is keeping me here! Any advice would be greatly appreciated... im unhappy, stuck and at a loss! ... View more