Thanks so much for that link, i will be sure to look through it for some advice. We have chatted with him often in the past about sex, the importance of respecting girls and of personal boundaries. He's generally a very outgoing kid and has often spoken about girls that he has crushes on at school before. He also openly talks about how he finds celebrities like Kylie Jenner beautiful and "hot", and as far as i know has a good grasp on the basics of sexual intercourse and reproduction through sex ed at school as well as us honestly answering any questions he has had in the past. I have never brought up the topic of foot fetish with him before and I believe he will act very shy and embarrassed and dismiss/deny it judging by how he has reacted in the past when we've teased him about liking mums feet. My wife has not and I dont believe ever will bring it up directly with him now either as she herself seems to feel some sort of guilt or shame with the new revelations of his sexual desire for her feet and probably feels responsible for encouraging him to touch her feet so often when he was younger maybe? I have tried to assure her this is not the case but it makes her uncomfortable to talk about it and i think she would rather just ignore it and hope it goes away. She tells me that she did ask him not to massage her feet anymore and explained to him something along the lines of, "you're 13 now, you are growing up and foot rubs are only for dad to do now", and "you can rub your girlfriend/wifes feet in the future if she wants you to". And left it at that. She said he has been disappointed whenever he tries to give them a rub at the end of the bed or on the couch and she pulls away. She has also started wearing socks to bed and around the house. As far as i know he doesnt try to do it as often anymore and is probably aware that we know his secret. Its been a while now since the humping incidents and he has gone from laying at the foot of the bed several times a week to rub her feet and watch TV with her to maybe once a week since with no foot rubbing, so that seems to have worked thus far. My wife is disappointed she is no longer getting as many foot rubs after work and i have tried to accomodate her as much as i can but i dont have the same desire to do it as often as Chris does. Also one thing i did not mention in my previous post was that i suspect he has been taking her worn socks and stockings into his room or the bathroom and masturbating with them before returning them to the wash basket in the laundry, as they will often disappear and reappear. I don't want to bring this up with her as she already seems quite distressed by it all. As far as foot fetish goes, she had never really heard of it before this so it has been a bit of a shock for her. I am fine with the fact that he has a foot fetish and would ideally prefer he be open with us about it, as long as he understands its not ok for him to fulfill that desire with his mums feet, practises it with discretion as he grows older and understands and respects boundaries and consent, as with any other type of sexual act. I believe he will when he does become active sexually as we have tried to raise him well in that regard. But it is incredibly awkward and embarrasing to bring up with a young teen boy, especially the bit about him liking mums feet. Can only imagine how ashamed he probably feels about it. I want him to know we still love him the same but that it is unacceptable behaviour, and say it in a way which isnt embarrassing or humiliating for him (or my wife for that matter). I am really struggling with how i can bring this up and really hope the OP can shed some light on her experiences in dealing with this situation. Thanks for listening. ... View more

Hi there, Similar to the OP of the thread, our son shows an interest in womens feet, in this case his mothers. My son Chris is 13 years old and has recently had a growth spurt as he appears to be going thru puberty. He is a good kid, popular at school and loves sports, music and video games like any other 13 year old. For many years he has shown something of an interest in my wifes feet. Since he was a very small child he would lay at the foot of our bed and rub and tickle his mums feet quite innocently while watching TV with us. We would often tease him that he liked feet and he would shyly deny it and say he was doing it because mum wanted him to. My wife has always loved her feet rubbed and is always more than happy to let him do so. He does it fairly regurlarly, a few times a week and we've never really thought anything much of it. A little bit unusual maybe but he has always been a "mama's boy" and has a very strong bond with her so. He shows no interest in mine or his older sister's feet from what I can tell. Recently while the 3 of us were in bed watching a movie on Netflix one night, him lying at the foot of the bed as usual rubbing her feet, and my wife and I both dozed off. It must have been after midnight when I awoke to find him still laying there with the TV on in the background. When i looked to what he was doing i could see him burying his face in the soles of her feet smelling them and could feel a slow humping movement on the mattress. I was a bit confused but i have kind of suspected he was beginning to feel a sexual preference for feet for some time, especially since he is now going through puberty. I sat up to see what he was doing and when he saw me he stopped and quickly acted like he was watching TV. I told him it was late and he should go to bed and he scurried off to his room. I did not bring it up with my wife that day and largely forgot about it. A few days later it happened again. I was half asleep and could feel him humping at the end of the bed while massaging her feet. This time I brought it with my wife and she said I was being ridiculous. She did acknowledge that he does like to touch and be close to her feet maybe a bit more than normal for a 13yo boy, but she flatly refused to accept the notion that he may have some sort of sexual desire for them and kind of made me feel bad about bringing it up. A few days later she told me that while he was massaging her feet one night on the couch while i was out she could see that he might have had an erection, and she also noticed when he was looking at his phone that he might have been taking a picture of her feet, but wasnt 100% sure. She asked him if he took a photo of them and he said "no that's weird mum, i'm just looking at my phone". We have spoken about it a few more times since and while she does still seem reluctant to accept it, she would rather just ignore it as it is a really awkward and embarrassing topic for both her and Chris. She said she would feel sad if it were true because all these years that she has been bonding with him giving her foot rubs would be tainted if he had some sort of sexual alterior motive and she simply doesn't want it to be true. Recently she has stopped letting him rub her feet and although they are still close, i feel this might have caused her to withdraw from him a bit and has affected their relationship. I was hoping to hear about the OP's experience in trying to navigate this situation. ... View more

May I ask what the outcome of your conversation was with your son? I suspect my partner and I will need to have a similar conversation with our son and was hoping to get an insight into your experience if you dont mind? Thanks in advance :) ... View more