Hello @conflictedmumma , I am sorry to hear about what you and your family are going through. It sounds like things have been tough for a while and the relationship between your partner and his ex is complicated. That must make things very tough for everyone involved. You mentioned earlier that the environment is unstable and volatile, so I just wanted to check in with you and ask whether you are concerned about your children's safety or the safety of your partners child?   I also just wanted to jump in and offer some support whilst waiting for support from other users. I am not sure whether you or your partner have heard of the support service "Parents Beyond Breakup" yet, but I think your partner might find them to be helpful. They are a service that supports parents experiencing trauma related to breakdown and separation. They offer various support groups and are linked with Dads In Distress, which offers confidential and professional support to fathers through their helpline. Their number is 1300 853 437 and here is a link to their website if you are interested.  Parentline is another service that you might find to be useful as they offer professional support to parents. You might find talking to one of the professionals about your concerns with your children and their needs to be quite helpful. Please feel free to update us here on the forums    ... View more