My teen is self harming. We're trying to get him to a professional that has the skills to deal with it but meanwhile we're (parents) are feeling shut out scared, that we are crap parents and at a loss with what we do. It's so easy to say just be there for when he wants to talk. He has always talked to us about heaps of stuff. We usually have a fun loving relationship but now we don't know what triggers the self harm and when it is occurring. When we fight (e.g. tell him we're taking the phone because it's a family dinner) we're scared it will trigger him but he refuses to talk about it or sleep in our room where he/ we can feel safe. Up until 6 months ago he would happily sleep in our room. Up until 3 months ago he didn't cover up his body. We want to check on him and ask to see what he's done. Ultimate question... what can we ask of him? Can we ask what things he's used to cut? Can we ask to see the harm so we know how recently he's done it?
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