My mother has been staying with us since early last year due to health concerns DS13 is constantly butting heads with grandma. She takes his phone off him as punishment for backchatting/uncompleted jobs etc. DS tonight lost it with grandma for  taking his phone away aover something trivial. The bin lid had food on it and she told him to clean it. He started to albiet with typi al teen attitude, and replied  'I was going to clean it'. Then starts world war three hundred and twenty seven. She believes he is impertinent and speaks over the top of him, he - not being heard or being able to finish gets louder. She takes his phone, he is still trying to explain his actions amd find out what he did to warrant her wrath. In the end she takes his phone off him for the entire weekend till monday. Today is friday. He says its unfair, she adds more time and tells him to go away. He calls her controlling. She uses her phone just as much as he does. Yet he is addicted. I believe my son is outspoken and have said to him about speaking to adults with respect. I also know he will do anything you ask of him, sometimes with attitude sometines without - but always does what is asked. I have noticed my mum tries to take over my parenting role - sometines overriding my decisions or outright verbally going against my parenting infront of the kids, and gets super **bleep**ty if she is called out on things. She likes to talk about certain things happening in the news or watch programs no one else likes, and gets really insulting and crabby if you dont express interest in them while she is forcing them down your throat. If you dont listen she will make phonecalls to her friends and talk with them about it... while your in the loungeroom with the kids trying to watch tv. Its very complex. Just not sure how to deal with this. ... View more