Thanks so much for your response. It feels like we're drowning here and it's just helpful to have some contact and perspective. I think you're right in that all we can do at the moment is give unconditional love and support and remove any sort of pressure. We believe that the issue is crippling anxiety, although she sees it as depression and it may well be causing depression. However, labels are of minimal help. Our goal is to be here to support and scaffold her with the eventual aim of socialisation, whether that is in the form of ongoing education, work, volunteering or anything else. I feel like my heart is in my boots and every day is scary, so I will try your one-on-one service and maybe see someone to help me be the best support to her that I can. Thank you again for your site. It's invaluable.
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My daughter is 19. She has dropped out of her first year of university for the second year in a row. Last year she started and everything was going well until Covid hit and everything went online. She became increasingly isolated and rarely comes out of her room. I can't even get her to sit on the deck and take in some sun. She is depressed and cannot find motivation to do anything. She has dropped out of uni this year before classes begin. She refuses to come to a GP or psychologist for help and believes everything is hopeless and refuses to consider any steps no matter how small. She is extremely rigid in her beliefs.
Her history includes an anorexia diagnosis at 11 and several hospitalisations through subsequent years. She left school but later completed senior at a school which provides students with educational units aimed at achieving university entrance. She had her ups and downs, but ended up doing really well. That was when she started uni last year (pre-Covid).
She is increasingly restrictive in her eating, and is losing weight. I'm very very very worried and don't know how to help her. I have told her how much I love and support her no matter what she does or doesn't do, and that I only want to take away the pain she is feeling. She thinks she is worthless and cannot bear anyone to see her. What can we do?
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