It was a while ago I wrote my post but still fresh given the difficulties which it seems a lot of you can relate to. Daughter is out of compulsory treatment order and off drugs. It took getting a good psychiatrist in hospital to ‘get it’. Prior to that we spent $10,000 for a barrister to avoid electroconvulsive ‘therapy’. She has agreed to a DBT program that will cost $10000 but as you all know we will do what it takes to help her help herself. She is turning 18 in a few months and I am slowly preparing myself for the difficulties she/we will face once she is legal age for alcohol, tattoos and have more access to drugs. We have kept her quite isolated from those things to date. So I am in the process of letting go and accepting that I have given her the resources, love and patience for her to make good choices. Otherwise I have no influence really and I must find myself again. The impressive thing for me doing a bpd program was that I have let all self respect erode and I must find it for myself and her. The program was online and available in many countries. Ran by family connections. I recommend it for caters. ... View more

Very much understand the frustrations of the public mental health system that has the power to fast track appropriate treatment but won’t. We have been asking for a referral to Spectrum to get a diagnosis clarification for bpd because our suicidal 16 year old meets all 9 criteria for bpd. Our GP has given a referral but won’t be seen for 8-9 months. The adolescent public mental heath service she had been with for 3 years and currently been place on a treatment order and locked up in the psych ward after her last suicide attempt. However they refuse to do a referral because of the stigma attached to BPD. This is actually what they said!!!! With their referral the wait would be reduced to 2 months so we are left to wait the 8-9 months. Even though they think my daughter is so critical they are locking her up against her (and our although at 16 we, her parents, have no say) will. She is not mature enough, not confident enough and not sane enough to represent herself in a public mental health and legal system. I understand your experience of anger from your daughter. We as parents are supposed to make everything ok yet she is so angry and does. It want to to talk about anything. So hard....... ... View more