Thank you so much for replying, it was great to not feel so alone and being able to talk to someone as I am unable to actually express the amount of pain and suffering he has caused and is continuing to cause my daughter and I. I think that he will never be friends with us again, he just phoned on no caller id to say that he never wants to see any of us again, he will not expect my apology and that he hates us all and that we meant nothing to him. I realise that he has moved on (2 weeks after breaking up with my daughter) but I thought that yes I have done things that I shouldn’t but as he was living with us I had to. I have no right to be in his life any more and I thought that as we were so close that he would still value my friendship, guidance and support as he has no one apart from his new girlfriend who he is so in love with on social media and I suppose her new family. I hope that he will treat her a little better. My daughter is scared to leave the house as of all the lies and threats he has made towards her and I cannot understand after all our love, money, time and caring like a mother for him that he can be so utterly mean and shows no remorse at al.  Is it because of his tragic upbringing and being in the system that he pushes everyone that loves him away by lying and having bad temper? Im trying to explain to my daughter that it is not her fault and explain and try to justify his behaviour. This was her first relationship and lasted over two years. He was lovely for the first 6 months but then started to change and Im not saying that my daughter is perfect but she gave him everything, loved him so much and would never have cheated as he left her 3 times and cheated with no remorse numerous times.Because they lived together during lockdown and as he had no where else to go it felt that they had been together for ever.  His depression and anger as well as never really knowing what kind of mood he would be in towards the end has been heartbreaking to watch. And now seeing him move on so quick and being so nasty really is so unfair. I still care a great deal and I know my daughter does as well, I only hope one day that he will realise all that we did for him and be friends again.   ... View more

Im so glad, I have come across this forum and reading everything as I was convinced that I was crazy and was obsessed with my daughters ex bf as I seem to be taking longer to get over their break up than my daughter. My daughter who was 16 at the time met her 17 year old boyfriend and they spent the first year together very much in love and happy. He was in foster care and had been after a traumatic childhood and event that took place when he was 10. He ran away from his foster mother due to his anger issues and depression and as he had no where else to go he came to live with me, my husband and younger daughter. Even though he had bouts of depression throughout this first year, they were so happy and they lived for each other. Then lockdown came, he lost his job, lost his new flat, his grandfather died and slowely he did more with his own family who dramatically changed his personality or brought out the real boy that was always there. I cared so much for him like a son, brought him all his clothes, took him everywhere and i loved him like my own. They were together another year, but he finished with my daughter 3 times during this second year over the course of between 5 and three weeks he would disappear, delete all her pictures and write single on all social media and would block her also. He came back for the final time in November and they were happy up until  feb when my daughter turned 18, he gave her no present or card and then they just fell apart. He left begining of March for a week, again deleted every trace of her and came back after a week begging her to look after him as he was suicidal and depressed. She stayed with him in her room for 10 days, day and night and after the 10 days said he was breaking up with her for good. He has been gone now for 5 weeks and my daughter told me that during their rekationship he had cheated on her numerous times and each time he went on a break would ask girls to meet him. He had blocked all of us now as a family, deleted every pic, tag and after 2 weeks iphas another girlfriendvwho is all over his social media. He has also blamed my daughter, who us the sweetest thing and would have given him the world and has said horrible things about us as a family. I am so hurt by all his lies, and how this has effected my daughter who is now on antidepressants as well as my self. My husband and i have now separated as of 30 years due partly because of all the arguments and lies during his tine living with us. i still care for him so much and wish him well, would love to talk to him but cant as he has blocked us and hates us and feels no guilt or thinks that any of this is his fault and he is happy with his new gf. He has no family positive support or role models and i am very worried about what will happen to him but he is no longer a part of our family but i still care even after everything.     ... View more