My daughter 16 years old girl(year 11) her psychologist strongly said she looked like BPD after 2nd overdose pills. After then, public hospital accepted her as an outpatient as a weekly basis from the next week. She has been refusing to go to school in April, She decided to continue even if her school suggests smaller units and extend more school years. But she hated school and didn’t want to extend more years. So since May, I really supported her for her attendance. I can’t drive and I let her use UBER when she goes to school and she used public transportation when you return home. Until the end of May, it looked perfect, but she overdosed without any signs and symptom. I lost my direction and devastated. She still wanted to go to school and supported her after this things happened. But the last week, her mood was getting down and she came out from the school even if she went to school using uber. And then. Just on Friday, she wanted to stay at home. I let her stay and we had a good time before her delivery. I always check her parcel, i just opened it in front of her. It was banana vape. I was very shocked and threw it in the bin. She was so so upset and begged me to get it. And now she is still very down and she wants her space. And she will have all assignments due this week. I am very worried about this pressure make her sinking. 1) Do I have to let her stop going to school? Whenever I ask her, she says I will go. But in order to continue, there are the minimum requirements like attendance and assignments. But whenever I mention this, she is very angry at me. 2) regarding the vape, her friend already smoked and my daughter ask her friend to get another one later. Luckily My youngest one can check her instagram messages and she let me know this messages. My elder one will never know this, if I tell this matter, she will change her id and password and block everything. So I just endure and keep it for the future. But how can I just look at her getting vape again and ignore it? So i also thought do I have to beg her friend, please leave her and don’t tempt her anymore???? Actually, I don’t know her number, but I found her instragram and asked friend request and she accepted. But before accepting it, she sent a message to my daughter, is this your mum? And she said yes. But weird thing is my daughter didn’t mention about this to me. So more scary and I can’t say anything to her friend. Because she is her very best friend. Hard!!!!!’ So sorry for long story, but I really need your opinions or experiences. ... View more

My 16 years old daughter is year 11 and she has been showed self harm as a stress management since year 7. But I didn’t know that until this Jan. I should have concentrated on my younger daughter, year 7. My younger one had diagnosed the optic brain tumour in 2009. She had benign, but the position was tricky to get rid of all, so we should check her very long time, and she had 2 chemos and surgery during her life. During those time, my eleder one didn’t have anyone to support and I couldn’t afford it. But now I realized I should have given some time with her. She was ok, but her mental is going down. Once I knew she had self harms and didn’t want to go to school, she started to see a GP and psychologist. And taking anti depression medicine. It is 6 weeks, now. But it is not getting better, or worse I think. And once she went to school, she couldn’t stay at school and very stressed, so did self harm again. But I don’t know the trigger for self harm only school. This Monday, she impulsively took Claritin 15 pills and I took her emergency. Thankfully, she told me she did. I let this know to school and sent a week break that emergency dept filled the medical certificate. Now, I don’t say anything for school, study, future.. she looks ok. In case of this, is it better for her to stop going to school and get more treatments? Or push her to go? ... View more

My 16 years old daughter is year 11 and she has been showed self harm as a stress management since year 7. But I didn’t know that until this Jan. I should have concentrated on my younger daughter, year 7. My younger one had diagnosed the optic brain tumour in 2009. She had benign, but the position was tricky to get rid of all, so we should check her very long time, and she had 2 chemos and surgery during her life. During those time, my eleder one didn’t have anyone to support and I couldn’t afford it. But now I realized I should have given some time with her. She was ok, but her mental is going down. Once I knew she had self harms and didn’t want to go to school, she started to see a GP and psychologist. And taking anti depression medicine. It is 6 weeks, now. But it is not getting better, or worse I think. And once she went to school, she couldn’t stay at school and very stressed, so did self harm again. But I don’t know the trigger for self harm only school. This Monday, she impulsively took Claritin 15 pills and I took her emergency. Thankfully, she told me she did. I let this know to school and sent a week break that emergency dept filled the medical certificate. Now, I don’t say anything for school, study, future.. she looks ok. In case of this, is it better for her to stop going to school and get more treatments? Or push her to go? ... View more