She is currently away, so I have time to calm down and think things through. One thing that will definitely be an issue for her is the fact I looked in her room--even though my reasoning for doing so was innocent. She has always hated it when I go into her room and I usually leave it alone. So there is this breach of privacy to deal with. She is very determined to think of herself as independent, too. As she is off to college in the fall, and I will not be able to monitor anything, I think I will stress the need for her to be as safe and healthy as possible (knowing that zero use is an unrealistic expectation as it is legal in the states we're in and where she's going to, for those over 21). But I know she's going to lose it at first. She does have quite a temper. . . . I have not noticed any change in behaviour, so that is a positive--perhaps it hasn't been going on long. At least, I hope so! ... View more

Thank you, Tom-Ro. I live in a small town next to prisons so there is a high number of sex offenders in the area, which adds to my anxiety about this issue. However, she is not interested at all in talking about it,  so no curious chats are possible at the moment!   ... View more