Hi Ladybates,   It's always tough navigating expectations, especially with in-laws!   It sounds like an open an honest conversation with your husband may be a good place to start. Having him on board will help a lot. Try raising the issue with him by trying to get him to see why you consider sharing drinks as unhygienic (without making him feel it is attack on his mum). The way you present the issue to him will play a big part in the outcome, reiterating that it's not about his mum, just the act of sharing drinks etc.    In regards to your mother-in-law, you mention she is very sensitive when you say anything remotely confrontational. Have you considered adjusting your communication style to get a different result? I have found that I really need to consciously change the way I speak, at times, with my in-laws, because we have very different ways of communicating. It was hard work to start but I have found an immense improvement in our relationship by thinking about what I say may be perceived based on their view of the world.    Good luck! I hope it goes well for you.      ... View more

Hi Brittany,    If you don't feel your child is receiving the care you expect, I would highly recommend moving centres. However, before making this difficult decision I would also recommend trying to discuss your concerns with the centre director and lead educator. At the end of the day, your child's safety and care is of most importance and if you don't feel you can achieve the outcome you desire by raising your concerns moving sounds like your best option (with the limited info I have).  Don't forget to check availability in your area if you do decide to move before leaving just in case you find yourself without care at all which can become another problem in itself.   ... View more