Thank you for your support - it really is appreciated. I looked at the online support on here but the appointments are very booked up. I will look at the autonomous online services you suggested and have a chat with her about this - possibly a good way forward in talking to her. This could be a useful sounding board for her. Her school is already aware of her situation and she is seeing the well-being staff weekly/fortnightly. It's kind of you to say I am a strong support for my daughter but I don't really feel I am - I am upset and cross that she has done this but also scared and lost as to what to do - I know this is how I should feel, I just want to fix things and I can't. My daughter is very privileged and wants for nothing. I really don't know what to do. I am also worried I have made things worse by being cross with her. Hopefully the things you have mentioned will build bridges. THANK YOU!
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My 14 year old is self-harming. We have a good family home (both parents together) and she wants for nothing. She is a very intelligent student who gets straight A's and plays three instruments (which she loves and want to do - no pressure from home). I took her to the Doctor who diagnosed her as depressed/anxious, based on the answers she gave to his questions. She now continues to say "I am depressed, I have anxiety - the Doctor diagnosed this so it's true". She has self-harmed twice. We then went to see a psychologist, after seeing the Doctor, who chatted generally to her but not much progress was made - the psychologist couldn't remember her name and couldn't remember if I was her Mum or Grandma. It didn't instil me with confidence and no progress appeared to be made. We stopped seeing the Psychologist but my daughter still sees a Counsellor at school. She has just done a cut on her arm again tonight. I am at my wits end and don't understand - she shows the cut "accidentally" so that we find out (she has only done it once before). I am angry with her (yes, I know this is wrong) and feel she thinks this is cool with the kids in school. I don't know what to do. I feel so down and feel like running away from everything. I don't know how to deal with this - please help. I don't feel I have a good relationship with my daughter since she became a teenager - she talks about gender issues and being gay, etc. I just don't know what to do. Any help appreciated. I feel I have failed completely as a parent - I am sure I probably am.
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