Hello parents and children, I am a mom to a 12 turning 13 year old daughter. Since she turned 9 our relationship has changed for the worse. Now looking back it may have something to do with her being a bisexual. I’m not sure what she is as she hasn’t admitted anything to me. There had been so many changes in our lives since she was 9 (moved, changed elementary schools, left childhood friends, pet died). The stresses of moving in, renovations, and my constant criticisms and nagging of my husband and children’s mistakes did not help. At age 10 she and her dad was called in by her principal because of her journal that was given to the latter by one of her classmates containing drawing or maybe writings of **bleep** which embarrassed her a great deal. This scarred her for life and she was never the same to us or to any educators. She has developed a great deal of mistrust to her parents and most everyone. She doesn’t talk to us much anymore and keeps a lot of her feelings to herself and her journal. Sometimes I see drawings of deprecating bodies with both large breasts and **bleep** together with words ugliness, acceptance, violence, kill or hatred in the paper. This saddens me a lot but more so afraid for her well being. I know she is depressed and it may be because she has sexuality issues that she cannot reveal to us as she’s to afraid to be judged. She feels that every conversation with us will end up in an argument that she doesn’t want to start. How do I support her? How do I win her trust again? How do I protect her from other people that may judge her for her sexuality? We are enrolling her in a Christian school (from public) because of the pandemic. I’m afraid that if they learn of her sexual views and opinions that this may traumatize her even more. She suffered enough from us her parents. I have realized my mistakes and is still working on changing which is difficult at my age and the upbringing I had but I’m willing to do for my daughter. I am so afraid that her inability to reach out is causing her so much feeing of emptiness and despair that she recently called a suicide hotline. To any parents who’ve been through the same experience and to those children who’s ever suffered from the same, please help me by giving some thoughtful advise.
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