WOW....what a wonderful thing you have done to take in and love on this young lady. She has been through some trauma...and sounds like you are are truly giving her what she needs right now.  I have two teenagers...and even in a family that has pretty "trauma" free- it is hard.  Just keep loving her and talking to her and keeping her in therapy.  Is there someone in her life before her Dad passed away that was important? Grandparents? Family? Teachers? Coaches or anyone that she might like to connect with and maybe chat with?  What is she like at school?  Is she willing to participate at school or mainly just quiet with you?   My oldest teen did suffer from a bit of anxiety when she went through puberty and she landed in her room a ton.  She has since ventured out and is part of the family again. I would find time when she seemed open to it...and try to just chat with her.  Are there any TV shows or books that you have that you could read together...or have her read and then discuss after?  What are the things she is interested in?  Just wanted to give you props for loving her- even in the midst of it being so hard.  Keep her in the counseling- sounds like she has shoved everything down deep- and the pain is taking over. ... View more