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Gordi · ‎11-24-2021

Hi Portia Thank you kindly for your advice you have given me some insight of what its like to be forced to go to school and great advice on what yr parents said to you. I have worked out a plan with my sons well being counselor and at this stage we have agreed on 2 days a week i do hope that ot will increase i dont want to think that his future will be bleak without a decent education. Thank you you have been very understanding

Gordi · ‎11-19-2021

My son is almost 14yo im a single mum doing it tough. He has all the signs of depression he has GP referral for paediatrician to diagnose and put him on a mental health plan. He is in year 8 the school is great and supportive and he often sees well being officer the school caters for kids that struggle and have recently set up a safety action plan due to being bullied in and out of school by same person ongoing for 12mths (they were good friends) this escelated to where i had to put a personal protect order so my son is happy and safe at school and home. Prior to this my son has always been about 2yrs behind in his education and peers. He makes friends easily he is a kind and understanding and very diverse and accepting if others. Since COVID with home schooling being inconsistent etc my son has been refusing to go to school he is very down within himself and is a typical teen boy hormones kicking in etc i am very concerned about his education which will affect his future he cant drop out in year 8. I dont expect grade A student just to do his very best and try new things. I communicate with the yr 8 coordinator often and i dont know what to do to get him to go to school ive tried many things even rewards or give him more independence more mature decision making. Every night he convinces me that he will go to school but in the morning he will not budge to get up and at the moment he hasnt gone for almost 2wks which he agreed to go at least 2days a week but not even that is happening. He blames his depression and refuses to go no matter what i try. I cant punish him as his depression will get worse and this wil cause more mental health problems. I don't know what to do im desperate for advice so he can atleast do another 3 years which legally and moraly he can get an apprenticeship or traineeship at 15yo or complete yr 10. Im sorry to babble on but i cant sit back and do nothing yet I can't force him as i take depression/anxiety and education for a better future. Does anyone have a similar situation that might be able to shed some light my way.

Gordi · ‎08-11-2021

Hello I'm gordi I have 3 children my eldest 2 are in Melbourne with there own lives and families and my youngest son is 13 & 1/2, year 8 this year and last has been very hard for everything and everyone. I'm a single mum living in regional Victoria. My son has hit the teens and hormonal physical and mental changes are hard and tiring. Am glad I'm not alone it seems every 3rd post is about school refusal or anxiety/depressed teens as my son is going thru a rough time too. I love when he thinks he has become a man still in a boys mentality and he knows everything and I'm just old and stupid lol. We have a very close r'ship which sadly has been coming to an end of those fun things we used to do together when he was my boy. He makes me laugh when he stumbles on words and mispronounces them. E.g carbondehydrates lol. And spickeled de me! Despicable me lol. And knows every atom and partial known to man lol. What a great forum this is its better then quora no offence to quora but it's very American and English. 🤔😍😀

Gordi · ‎08-11-2021

Hi there I'm gordi just signed up with reach out. As I was reading thru your information you mentioned big brother program. What. Do they do as I'm a single mum with teenage son refusing school won't do home schooling has hormonal attitude nos becoming lazy infact my story is very very similar to the lady you replied to. He has anxiety and has had a cpl of bouts of showing signs of depression of which he said that it's school that makes him depressed. Anyways big brother program is maybe what my boy needs he hasn't had much of a relationship with him dad it was very hostile violent and toxic. I've noticed how much my son gets very close with the cpl male friends that I have I see his heart craving for male/father figure closeness and male bonding so I'm wondering if you would be kind enough to give me more information or there details. 😁 @WhaeaM wrote: Hi Nikkita .. gosh you've got a lot going on. God bless you. I am wondering if you have thought of the big brother programme? I'm not sure how it works but I am sure there are adult males who will fulfill the role in a small way of having a male influence in your boys life. It might help. I'm sorry I don't have any contact details but if you google I am sure something will come up. You are a brave Mama.. never stop telling your boy you love him and for every situation look at the glass half full, not half empty approach. Cheers.

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