Hi. Sorry to hear that your husband is having medical issues. I understand that when your child comes to you and surprises you with a huge decision it can be very scary. Know that most likely they have been thinking about this for a very long time. I encourage you to sit down with them and ask about their feelings. Ask questions about how they see themselves. Do they have a preferred name and pronoun they would like to use. What about them causes them distressed. I am assuming they were born female. So having a period can be very hard if they identify as male. So social transitioning can be an option for now where they dress they way the prefer, use preferred name and pronouns and bring them to an OB/GYN for birth control to stop their cycles. Maybe look for a therapist in your area that specializes in LGBTQ youth. Talking to your child first to understand where they are coming from then speaking with your husband may be a good idea. Yes this is a shock but like you I'm sure your husband just wants them to be happy and healthy. A good website is www.transfamilies.org www.imatyfa.org I work with the transgender population and family support is so important.
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