Again, I am in exactly the same position. I try to remain very calm with him and could previously talk him down. That no longer works. I do find if he is starting to kick off, if I ignore him and the behaviour completely it does diffuse more quickly. I, like you, have spent most of my time focussing on him. Doing everything I can to ensure everything is ok to avoid him kicking off. There is no point. I am starting to learn that no matter what I do, if he wants to kick off, he will. I need to focus more on my other two children and not just him. It is so unfair to the other two. My son also admits he is wired differently. He has previously attended counselling which has been of limited help. He calls every shot. If he wants to go out, he goes out. If he doesnt want to go to school, he completely refuses. If he goes to school and wants to go home, he just leaves. I cannot parent him. I feel like I have completely failed as a parent. I know it sounds awful but I am also completely embarrassed by it all. I occasionally see glimpses of the wonderful, kind young boy that he really is, which again is heartbreaking as he is in there somewhere but the substance misuse has taken over him. Will they ever come through this? How do we support them?
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