Hi! I came here to write basically the same thing. I found out a few weeks ago my 15yo was self harming through the school. I felt like my world crashed around me. She wouldn't speak with me either and shut me out completely. We also can't get into a psychologist until late January. It's a ridiculously long wait for someone struggling like this. It has only been in the last couple of days where she's really started to open up to me. She said she didn't want to tell me because she knew I would cry and that would make her feel bad. And one of the reasons she self harms is because she feels like she's a bad person. I'm a crier for most things so this is a huge personal challenge for me. When she showed me her legs, it took everything in me not grabbed her tightly and cry. The following morning she shut me out again. I'm not sure if I'm doing this right, but I think it's important to let her drive the conversation and its my job to keep the communication lines open, be ready to listen without judgement or anger and to let her know I'll always be there for her when she's ready. You are not alone in this. Xxx ... View more