Hi, I have recently discovered that my son has been messaging and chatting with a girl , on an app called Discord, that  he went to primary school with (now at different high schools) for the last 3 months.  I woke up during the night and found him on his ipad.  I didnt think to check his ipad as he has been 100% interested in using it for games only, since he got it.  I noticed message history and saw extremely inappropriate sexual messaging between (what turns out to be himself and this girl).  Much investigating my myself and I approached him for a chat, after i had disgested the reality of my introverted, intellectual son being involved in this messaging. Explained what I saw and my concerns with it in terms of his age and said we needed to put some boundaries in place for devices, given the highly inappropriate discussions. I wanted to reach out to her parents, but my son and I discussed how he might approach setting boundaries with her if they were to continue messaging. He was very concerned of upsetting her by 'ghosting' her if his devices were removed and we decided to give him a chance to talk to her and he would no longer allow any sexual references in their conversations.   i also put a time limit on his ipad and it locks from 10pm until 7am and we agreed that devices (Ipad and phone) would be kept downstairs at night out of his bedroom. I also said I would do the same.   ITwo nights have passed and I looked at his phone history and he has managed to sneek his phone to message during the night for both nights as it doesn't have the time lock on it.  The message history was probably even worse then originally and this girl is clearly in an family violence situation at home and has clear emotional issues - saying she will get rid of herself etc. and my son it really emotionally invested. She seems to initiate all of the sexual comments, asking him to do things and keeps asking if he loves her and wanting to meet up with him in person (seems to have been all digital contact so far.   I'm super concerned about my son recently starting to lie about little things (such as, "have you have breakfast" -Yes, when he has no real reason to lie) and sneaky behaviour.  He tried to get my permission to get the bus to the shopping centre to met his school friend but said it was cancelled when I said I would contact the frisn'd mu yo check.  He is an empathetic boy and I;m worried about his emotional welfare and guilty that I was so busy with life over the past few months that I only had time to notice this when I was on holidays. We have had around 3 good discussions about this (although not today's find) and I tried to show him I wanted to trust him and have to date, but that stopped today and I took both devices and said they are banned!   No idea what to do from here as I don't feel our chats are enough. Don't want to involve Dad as he is highly explosive and I don't want to ruin my relationship with my son when we have just hit the teenage years!   Does anyone relate to this situation or have any advice, please? ... View more