Hi @TiredParent thank you for sharing with us here on the forums.   I'm sorry to hear that so much has happened recently with your son. I can hear just how much you care about him and just how worried you are. I can only imagine how confusing it must be for you to wonder what he must see in her after being against her for so long, especially since hearing the experiences from the ex boyfriend. That must be such a difficult thing for you to experience. I am just wondering how you are looking after yourself during this difficult time? It's important to practice some self-care to make sure that you're getting through this too.   You mentioned that you have not spoken to a professional about this, I was wondering if you would consider a helpline? One helpline that you can call for advice is Parentline. You can call them to talk to a trained counsellor and get some advice around what your next steps should be.   We are all here for you ... View more