Thank you for responding. I know that they are unsure about their gender identity they have spoken to me about that but they have insisted the self harming is not about that. I cannot help but wonder if it is to do with that. They have 3 brothers and are not ready to share their feelings ref gender with them or anyone in the family outside of my husband and myself. I have told them that their dad and I support them whatever they want and asked what we can do to help. I want to help but don’t want to force them into anything that they don’t want. I am disabled with a degenerative spinal condition and I also suffer from depression. I have medication to control that. I have a very supportive husband but we are at a loss how to help when all offers are refused. I feel like all I can do is make sure they know we are here and willing to listen. I wonder if I should persuade them to see a Dr but don’t want to make the situation even worse. ... View more