Our 13 year old boy started a new friend group 12 months ago. He went from a sports loving, family focused, happy, relaxed boy to now school non attendance, vaping, angry young man. Who recently got stopped by police in possession of cannabis. We have an older daughter who attends school, is working, doing well in assignments and generally a very easy person. My husband and I are both feeling incredibly lost with parenting this new version of our son. At the moment we have cut off money to him, but he threatens with never attending school and disappears each day to hang with friends. We have had meetings with the school, that he refuses to attend, we’ve offered counselling, ‘not going’, Doctor’s appointments ‘not going’ and have open conversations about his behaviour. So far he still comes home in the evening as hungry. We are trying to remain positive, loving and supportive but just feel like the daily narrative is the same. Us: We’d like you to attend school today Him: give me cash and I will We have complied in the past only to find out he isn’t attending. We offer lunch money onto a Spriggy (card no cash out), ‘nope, not going to school’. We have blocked his phone as well, however free wifi is everywhere so that doesn’t work. We need some helpful, understanding advice. I’m struggling the most emotionally and mentally. My husband is better as enforces the rules, and both of us stick to them. We are worried he will just disappear, staying with people we don’t know. We both would love to have our old version back but know this is the new new that we have to evolve with. Thanks. ... View more