12 Year Old pansexual

[sueg1]

My 12 year old son came to me last night, and said he was pan sexual. I did not even know what that was, I had to google and asked him to explain it to me. I listened to him, told him I loved him and that would never change. He asked me not to tell anyone, as the older generation in our family I am sure will look down on him, I'm just not sure on what to do or if I even need to do anything. Is this just a phase? Should I make him take some time off of social media and video games? As a mother I always want to do what is best for my children. I just dont know what to do now. 

[keladeine · Accepted solution]

Hi,

I'm bi (which is very similar to pan) and I've known it since a very young age. By 15 I knew it, and I never really thought much of it. There was no social media back then, even the term bisexual was taboo.

It has never been a big part of my life, and honestly, it's one of the least interesting things about me.

It may be a phase, it may not.

[keladeine · Accepted solution]

Hi,

I'm bi (which is very similar to pan) and I've known it since a very young age. By 15 I knew it, and I never really thought much of it. There was no social media back then, even the term bisexual was taboo.

It has never been a big part of my life, and honestly, it's one of the least interesting things about me.

It may be a phase, it may not.

[sueg1]

I will always support him in any and everything that he does, BUT i also know what a cruel mean world we live in now days. I think that is my biggest fear of it all for him. 

[keladeine]

The world seems to have become more and more accepting of fluidity, so there's that

[sueg1]

Thank you

[veryqueer]

It is very important that you support them no matter what, even if it is just a phase. don't punish them, it is very hard to come out and you should be very proud that they had the courage to do so.