02-12-2020 10:46 AM - last edited on 02-13-2020 10:40 AM by Jess1-RO
Our eldest son is studying his final year at school. He worked really well last year and had a few anxious moments or concerns about the HSC. Now as this milestone looms over his head he is feeling particularly stressed and anxious. He has this mindset that he doesn't have a life and is feeling bogged down with the workload. I have encouraged him to maintain his sporting outlets and to reward himself with breaks from studying and school work but he doesn't feel as though he has any spare time, like every moment is dedicated to school. Are there any websites or suggestions about how to help him and time management?? He doesn't know whether he should be focusing on homework or assessments!! I don't want him totally focussed on school work and feeling that he has nothing to look forward to.... maybe trying to avoid ground hog day! He appears to be focussing on the big picture as opposed to setting smaller milestones and focussing on them. Any suggestions for setting goals, rewarding yourself etc. I am really concerned as it was such a long time ago when I did the HSC....I hate seeing him unhappy and confused.
02-12-2020 03:40 PM
Hi @Bungarra ,
Thanks so much for posting here - the HSC can be an absolutely massive year both for kids and for their parents, and you're definitely not alone in feeling worried, and wanting to help your child find the best strategies to help them through the year.
ReachOut have actually put together quite a lot of resources on coping with exam stress, time management, and shared stories from other young people about what's worked for them, I've linked to the main page above, and there's also a page here
which has some great, evidence based suggestions as well as apps that your son may find helpful
Like you say, breaking down big goals into smaller, achievable steps is a big part of studying successfully, and can also help us to feel less out of control overall.
It's also really important to schedule in time for enjoyable activities like seeing friends, or sport, or exercise - as you say, it isn't great if he is feeling like every spare minute has to be dedicated to school . The resources I've linked to above have lots of ideas about time management and goal setting, but if his worry is starting to affect his enjoyment of life, it could also be a good idea to look at some professional help. Do you think he would be open to having a chat with your GP to get a mental health plan, or visiting headspace? Both are affordable and accessible options for kids to find extra support and build the skills to help them to manage stress successfully.
You sound like a really wonderful parent who cares about your son's mental wellbeing, which is so important - and I'm sure with you on his side he will be able to get through the year ahead.
02-12-2020 10:34 PM