My sons girlfriend is having sex with my friends son

[Jordanna75]

I got a text fom my best friend saying she walked in on her son and my sons girlfriend having sex. She said the they begged her not to tell but the only person she told so far is me. Should I do anything or let teens deal with their relationships??

[Taylor-RO]

Hi @Jordanna75, I had to edit some names out of your posts as ReachOut is anonymous. I think the decision is ultimately yours but you could have a conversation with both of them about the situation and the idea of being honest about what is going on. What are your thoughts?

[Jordanna75]

I really dont know lol

[Jordanna75]

They're only teens

[Taylor-RO]

The fact that they are teenagers means that this could be an opportunity to have the conversation about honesty, boundaries and relationships @Jordanna75. At a young age it is really important to have these conversations so that values and standards can be established.

There also might need to be the consideration of how knowing this information might impact your relationship with your son?

[Jordanna75]

My son's sort of in his own world

[Jordanna75]

Its just the way his mind works he

[gina-Ro]

hey @Jordanna75 - this is such a tricky situation - I do not envy you at all! 

What a complex thing to be in the middle of... teens are working through a lot of relationship stuff , particularity in learning skills and boundaries...

What did you decide to do? 
Do you feel that your son should know this information? 

[Jordanna75]

Not sure just yet. Just because if his personality. He wouldnt know how to procees it

[Jordanna75]

Didnt really get any advice lol