My son (6) has not been formally diagnosed - the waiting list for diagnosis is very long (e.g. 18+ months) where I live - but we've know that he is neurodivergent from a very young age. We suspect ADHD. He's a wonderful, funny, smart, and very sweet little boy but he is also exhausting: doesn't listen, argumentative, deliberately provocative, lies, doesn't engage in school work, is disruptive at school etc. He was also hitting, kicking etc a lot. until recently; he still has issues with anger but it's so much easier than it used to be. I'm struggling to cope with his behaviour and am completely burnt out. The last four years, in particular, have been really, really hard. There were some points, during the pandemic, when he was three that I just (I'm ashamed to admit) wanted to leave. My husband is neuro divergent (also not formally diagnosed but has all the common 'traits') so has a better understanding of our son's behaviour. He is not as worried about our son as I am. I love him so much but I don't think I've been a very patient mother to him. I don't know how to deal with him, although I'm really trying, and I don't know how to help him to thrive. I just want him to have a happy life. I don't want everything to be a struggle for him. All my friends children seem so easy in comparison, and they are thriving at school at beyond, and I just feel like such a bad parent, especially when he is aggressive with other children, or demonstrates 'naughty' behaviour. I'm not sure what I expect from joining this forum/starting this thread, except that I just want a place to be honest. I feel lonely and isolated. Thank you.
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Hello all, 1. How old are your kids and what is one thing they've done recently that made you laugh? I have a six-year old, who makes me laugh every day with his joyful personality. His dance of joy made me laugh this morning. 2. Parenting can be really stressful - how do you try to keep those stress levels down? I'm not sure I'm doing a very good job at this, but I try to have time to myself (listening to audiobooks, surfing the net, speaking to friends etc.) when I'm feeling particularly fraught or burnt out. 3. What led you to ReachOut Parents today? I'm struggling with a child who has ADHD. I finding parenting hard and it feels lonely, even through I have a partner who shoulders a lot of the work. All my friends' children seem to be thriving, while we are just treading water. My child struggles with so many things; and it hurts to see him struggle. I'm worried about failing my neuro divergent child and I want to connect with people who truly understand what it's like to have a neuro divergent child. 4. Whats your top tip for parents whose kids are about to enter teenage years? I have no experience of this! 5. Whats the best thing about weekends? Not having the get-ready-for-school chaos; they just feel a lot more mellow. Thank you.
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