Hi all, We have 3 children girls 17 and 18, boy 16. We have always been a very close family, I still have an amazing relationship with my daughters. My oldest daughter has always been a very anxious child, very smart and an achiever (whatever that means). My 17 yo is a beautiful deep thinking soul which has made her vulnerable to suffering from depression. Both are medicated. In the last 18 months falling into the wrong crowd they have both slowly but surely become addicted to dope. 17 yo is still high functioning but has suicidal tendencies and in under good care now but in fear of losing her completely we did allow for a time her to smoke pot in the shed thinking at least we knew she was home, safe and not hurting herself. Unfortunately this has led to my other daughter and her boyfriend to join her, them ultimately quiting their jobs, laying around the house all day smoking. Clearly recognising this plan was not working we set down boundaries, no pot in the house and until 18 y.o and boyfriend quit pot, get jobs and start behaving as adults he is not welcome under our roof as the relationship is toxic and we have enough going on! This has led her to lash out against us, be verbally abusive and threaten to move out (with no money etc insert eye roll) We have told her we love her, there is always a bed for her but while ever her and boyfriend are making such bad choices we need to put these boundaries in place. Have we done the right thing? Any advice would be great, we are constantly exhausted 😰
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