Hi there!! I would like to say a big thanks to all of you who posted lots of positive thoughts my way but I write with bad news I am afraid. I went in to work yesterday and just felt like a fool!! The others in the class were asked to take part in telephone scenarios whilst I was asked to go to the canteen and refill everyone's water bottles. !! When your gut instinct tells you something, it is usually correct. For the last 4 weeks I have had the distinct feeling that our Trainer did not like me. She seemed to spend a lot of her time with the younger members of the class and whenever they needed help she would sit by them and show them on their PC how to do certain things and 9 times out of 10 I was told to "refer to your manual" which was complicated in itself. Yesterday when I told her I just wanted to leave, she went to get one of the Managers who stood and spoke about me as though I wasnt even there, then they took my Pass Badge and escorted me from the premises. I felt they couldnt get rid of me quickly enough!! All this to work in a Call Centre!! The trainer actually stood with a big smile on her face as she was saying goodbye. My class mates could see that I was becoming somewhat withdrawn and so just decided to stop speaking to me. I had to sit and listen to them, along with the Trainer, laughing and joking about how well they were all doing and how good it was to see everything "start to come together". I really did just want the ground to open up! Now I have now job, I dont know what to do and my confidence is a low as it has ever been! XXXX
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I have started a new job and we have 6 weeks of classroom training (there are 5 of us in the class). After the 6 weeks and we go "Live" actually doing the job, we have supportive training also. We have been told that we will be working for the company for about one year before we truly know everything we need to know. Today I just wanted to throw the towel in!!! I am 51 years old and the others are 19, 22, 24, and 25 and I feel I am not picking up the computer systems as quickly as them. I dont feel I am doing as well as them and we have only come to the end of week 4 and already I am feeling "not good enough". My old employer treated me very badly and for years I have had no confidence and am trying really hard to claw this back. I thought having this new job, it would give me MORE confidence but I feel it is having the opposite effect and is in actual fact taking more of what I have left. I do want to keep going but finding it really tough!! Reading these mantras this morning helped me in a way but I need to find a way of keeping on repeating them. I dont know if I am kidding myself on or if I can really do it. Sorry this is going on and on and on and on!!! Tomorrow is another day I suppose!! Thanks for listening!! XXXXX
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This is my first post as I am new to this site today. My son is 18 years old and it has only ever been him and I since he was born. We live in a very small flat but he has everything he needs and never wanted for anything growing up (by that, I mean he always got what his friends had so he never missed out). I have worked full-time all my life since I was 16 and now I am 51. My son's father left me when I was 7 months pregnant saying he "just couldnt do this!!"..
My son and I have always had a close relationship. He was very badly bullied in secondary school so left at 16. He has a job working in a shop which I think he enjoys. He has joined a gym and has his own friends. The problem I have is that I feel like I am living with a complete stranger. He leaves a mess all over the place which I have to clean up all the time. I have tried speaking to him, shouting at him, and ignoring it and I have to clean it up as it really does my head in. I do not take any housekeeping money from him as he does not earn a lot, but he thinks nothing of making a mess of my flat, he is happy to eat some of the food I buy (sometimes he buys his own food) and when I DO speak to him he is so disrespectful when he speaks back to me. His room is always like a pigsty!! I dont know who this person is. He just completely ignores me. Its as though, to him, I am not even there!!
He was diagnosed with Crohn's disease last year and his medication is now steady and he knows what he is doing and is managing fine. He has obviously forgotten all the love and support he got from me when he was so unwell, all the trips to see specialists and experts, all the visits to the hospital and everything that was done for him then. When he comes home from work, he goes straight to his room and doesnt even say "Hi", when he goes to work he just leaves and doesnt say "Bye". Its like living with a non-paying, ignorant, messy lodger.
Has anyone else experienced this??
I even leave him notes and send text messages, both of which he ignores. I dont want to ask him to leave but he is clearly not happy living with me and he is making my life a misery. My friends and family tell me to "just ignore him and he will snap out of it when he is ready"... When HE is ready?? ...Hello..?? What about me??
Can anyone offer up any advice. I would be really grateful!!
I just cannot believe that the boy I sacrificed so much for, did the best I could for him given that his father was never there, is now treating me like crap. It is soul destroying and really bringing me down!!
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