Hi @taokat, thank you for your response!
Their relationship started off as a friendship but after we discovered some disturbing texts and photos shared between them, we tried to stop it and explained to her why we do not approve of the relationship between different cultures and that what they are busy with is unacceptable.
It seemed that they cooled down a bit, she even told me they are not seeing each other anymore, but they are in the same school and church youth group, so obviously they will have contact.
And 2 nights ago she send a message to her dad saying that she is so sad because she loves this boy and do not want to be only friends with him and threatens to start self harming again and to commit suicide, because we do not care about her and do not want to see her happy. Also when he tried to end the relationship, she said that if he leaves her, she will commit suicide.
She is extremely aggressive when confronted about the lies that she tells and she blames everyone else for being the way she is. She does not understand that her attitude, actions and doings have consequences, because in her eyes, she is the victim and we are the bullies.
We are at our wits end, my husband is so scared that she will actually go through with the threat of harming herself, so he tries not to aggravate the circumstances any further. This also has a huge impact on our relationship.
We need help on how to handle the situation without it blowing up. Unfortunately we are in Namibia, so the services that you have available in Australia cannot be accessed by us. We do not have those type of helplines. It would have been awesome if we had!
Thank you for your support, just knowing I am talking to people who understand already helps a lot!
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My 15 yr old step daughter has been having a relationship with a boy from a different race for the past year behind our backs. We do not approve of the relationship, because of things that happened between them last year and because he is from a different culture. She is now trying to manipulate us in giving approval for the relationship by threatening to harm herself and kill herself and saying things like we don't care about her and don't want to see her happy. From what I have read on this site, she may be suffering from depression and according to her, she is also being bullied at school. She is super sensitive and gets offended by anything you say to her. She also lies about things and when confronted, gets SO angry and denies everything. She blames me and her dad for the way she is, but we have tried to reach out to her and get her help a couple of times but she does not co-operate and is dishonest and secretive about everything she does.
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