I need some guidance.  I am feeling completely out of my depth and don't know what to do.  It is a complex situation with many layers and I am really scared that I will do something wrong.   My daughter's friend is currently in a mental health facility as she has been suffering with depression and has self harmed.  My daughter and her girlfriend have been visiting her most days which I am very supportive of.    My daughter's girlfriend's parents do not agree that they should be visiting and they have some very strong views about that mental health that are quite dismissive of it as a serious problem.  The other thing they have strong views about is sexuality.  This is a problem as they don't know that their daughter is in a relationship with my daughter (they have been together for over a year now).  This also causes a lot of stress as her parents are openly opposed to gay couples even making rude comments some of their other friends that are also gay.   My daughter is caught in the middle of all of this.  Wanting to be supportive of her girlfriend and their friend but also feeling worthless and wrong in her choices.  I am so proud of how supportive they have both been of their friend.  My daughter has also reached out to another girl (younger) who is also very close to their friend.  She is also undergoing treatment for depression and drug use.  This younger girl is also my son's girlfriend.     My problem is that I know so much about my children's partners that they have not told their parents.  I am trying to be supportive of all of them but when does it become important that I share information with their parents if I am concerned about their well being?   I don't want to break the trust of my kids (we have a great relationship) or of their partners/friends but I am concerned that this could effect the well being of my kids (and to be honest me too).   I am a single mum (the children's father was the cause of my depression - which is currently controlled) and have no one to bounce this off as I don't feel I can talk to those around me about this as they may know the kids involved.   I am sorry that it is a very confused post.  Thanks for reading. ... View more