Hi, our son (14, but very tall and looks much older) also seems to spend a lot of time on his own. However, we found out that he has good mates at school (when we aren't around - parents are 'uncool', but then again, have they ever been cool?!) and even a girlfriend. Our son seems to spend all his time at home by himself but he's actually always talking to his friends on the phone, or via on-line games. It seems to be the modern way. There was a time when parents were proud of thier kids for staying in their rooms reading books, so maybe online games are the modern equivelant! The way I figure it these days, if he's at home, and not roaming he streets, the battle is halfway won. We, as modern parents, just have to adjust our thinking as to what is 'normal'.
... View more
Hi Sorry, my wife posted the orginal comments, but we're a good and solid team and have been busy - so sorry for the late reply. C has been staying home (as far as we know), but we've locked a few doors and hidden keys, along the way. C is a good young man and we get amny complimnets from other parents on his attitude and behaviour. The police have also said that kids 'roaming' at night is pretty common, (it's a different world, the kids see it as 'safe' because noone is around (apparently), etc.). I've explained how night-time is actually very dangerous because of the people that go out at night and we think things have actually improved. A good result!
... View more
Last night got up at 3am to get a drink of water. Out of habit always do a quick check of kids(13 and 14yrs old) found son 'C' not in bed. He had pulled covers up over pillow and large teddy to make it look like he was in the bed. Checked all over house, he was nowhere to be found. Phoned and texted him a few times and got no reply. My husbands away overseas for work. After 20 minutes I had not heard from C so I phoned the police. Short story, he turned up at 4.30am and said he had felt sick and had gone for a walk and had fallen asleep in a lane way not far from our house.(It was 3 degrees outside, not exactly the type of weather where you sit down and fall assleep! He had his phone on him and wanted to know what the problem was!!! Really!! Police turned up and had a gentle word to him. C was very angry at me for calling police. This is the third time he has done this(that we know of in the past 7 weeks). The last two times we discovered him missing at about midnight and he answered straight away within 15 minutes. We have tried to explain that this behaviour is not safe. We live in a safe, quiet suburb but wandering around in the middle of the night is not on. He is very withdrawn, moody, lives in his bedroom and on his phone. I just jioned this forum as I dont know what to do. I read the article by Maggie Dent- "Dear Mums of smelly boys", What she describes in that article is my young man all over. Did I over react calling the police?? Any time we try to connect with him just results in arguements.
... View more
You are welcome to look around the forums, but please don’t make an account or post,
as we can’t offer you the help you may need.
Before you go ahead and post, you should know that we remove non-Australian accounts
– not because we don’t want to help or connect with you, but because we may not be able to
provide you with the service that you require.