I know she is smoking pot but I never ok with it but like anything else she does what she wants and now she is smoking at home while I'm not home. I don't know know what to do with it. Anyone has any advice or opinion will be much appreciate to hear. ... View more

Hello everyone. I decided to start my own thread here now. As some of you already saw my comment on other thread but I have a 17 year old daughter who is broke up with her first serious boyfriend they were dating over 1 1/2 yr from there everything going down the hill. She started go summer school ( we don't live in Au pls don't kick me out! ) trying to get some credit in math and she was doing great although math is her weakest subject so she was working so hard the first week. While this week I don't know how she met this guy but she hookup with this 25 yr old guy and she was hiding from me. One day I found a small bottle of vodka hiding in a between mattress. Although she said she doesn't drink and was't hers, apparently it's her friend's ( well... ) everything started from this incident and she fuss about her privilege for having a phone all the time ( I take her phone at 10pm no allowed to have her bed room over night except for the weekend only if she clean up the bathroom on the weekend that's one and only her chores at home ) and sleepover privilege. She is not allowed to go because i found one time she was drinking at friend's when she had sleepover. But she can do sleepover at my place but it wasn't good enough for her. She basically said she will go sleepover when she want and where she want from now on because my house rules are ridiculous. I said If she is like that I can't support for what she want to do. I was hiring tutor for her to just get through her summer school but I told her I'll no longer pay for it. I just wanted her to know she just can do whatever she wants and if she does there will be a consequence. Then she gets mad that if I don't support her she will quit summer school which is so sad to see if she did but it's not s big deal because she can just take it when she get back to school in September. Unfortunately she drop out. Sad to see she can easily quit something she decided to do it and she wanted to do it. After that things get very scary. I found out about this 25 year old she hookup with and she is buying weed ( this is not the first time ) and go to his place planning to have another hookup. I talked about this with her without me getting upset and mad. When I found out this whole hookup thing my heart was broken and so so sad and worry more than I was mad. I was over being mad I was worry so much. She lost her dad ( my husband ) when she was 8 year old from cancer but if he didn't die from cancer he would have been dead from drugs. He was addicted math. It's all started from smoking pot for him. When she was 12, I found out she bought weed. I decided to tell her about her dad. I was hiding his addiction when she was young only told her that he has 2 different illness. So she knew my concern about her getting into drugs but she does anyways... I actually had a great talk with that night how I worry about her and how wrong is to have her this kind of relationship with this 25 year old guy. She said she knows it's wrong but it makes her feel better. She is struggling a lot of things. She hate herself and she feels no one likes her because she is s horrible and selfish person and on and on. I just told her she is not a horrible person she is struggling. I asked her if she wants to see councilor or something that will help her. First she said she might and she wants but then she is not ready. She totally understand what is going on is totally wrong. She had a friend told her to stop what she is doing but in her head everything make sense to her and make everything is right to her what she is going. I thought that night I got her back but I knew it wasn't end because she told me she will still be hang out with that guy. From that day she just goes out to his house not coming back even thought I said no. It's so hard to see her getting ready to leave home knowing what she is going to do at his place... I keep telling her she is worth more than that. More I tell stuff like that it will hurt her and pushes her away. I just don't know what to do... ... View more