Hi @Desperate0mum, It's a difficult time, trying to find the balance between supporting and pushing our kids. My son needed support and understanding for his depression at 14, pushing and punishing was definitely the wrong approach, in my opinion. Not everyone in the family agreed, and that's hard. Maybe you need to put your case firmly, but keep in mind that some people can be in denial, or just don't see what you see. Help them see it. If that fails, you might need to shield her a little. At the same time even depressed kids need to know there are boundaries. That was another balancing act for us. Have you spoken to the psychologist about what's happening at home? They may be able to help. It's a very hard time. Look after yourself. I write that a lot, and whenever I do I remember my response at the time: I'm not important, I'll just cope. Well, if you get worn out you can't help your girl. So, look after yourself, not for yourself, but for her. Cheers
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