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12-05-2018
03:25 PM
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We actually had that conversation after her appointment! I told her everything that I was thinking. I am feeling much better about it all. Thank you!
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12-05-2018
01:30 PM
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We have had extensive conversations on the subject. I believe she is as educated as she can possibly be. Left no stone unturned. There isnt anything that I can think of that we haven't talked about. I think that I have just been freaked out about the fact that I am pretty calm about all of this and thinking that there must be something wrong with me because I am calm. Lol
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12-05-2018
04:39 AM
@Dad4good Thank you much. I guess I am just questioning my judgement on the situation. I don't particularly want my daughter having sex but feel like it would not be realistic of me to believe that it isnt going to happen. I too was a teenager once and remember those years clearly. Which is why we are doing birth control. It is a struggle to feel like I am not giving her the green light. She knows that I am not. Just praying that this isnt bad parenting on my part. I am oddly at peace with the knowledge that this may happen sooner than I would like. That is what weirds me out. Lol
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12-04-2018
11:58 PM
He has told her multiple times that he would never push her to do anything that made her uncomfortable (and he has not). Last week he got really mad at himself because he wanted to go further (she had no idea because he didn't try anything) and he got really upset with himself over it. It took her a couple of hours for him to finally tell her what was wrong with him. He was afraid she would think badly of him. Her response to the problem was that those thoughts are normal for a teenage boy and that he needed to remember the 2 year difference in ages. Her opinion was no different of him. I am impressed with the maturity level that they are showing through this subject. I'm a lot calmer that I thought I would be BUT sometimes my anxiety shoots through the roof. Am I a bad parent because I am not freaking out? I am not encouraging this but not trying to keep them apart. Am I a fool for trusting that they are maturely figuring this out for themselves? I think my anxiety comes from the parenting aspect. I pray I am doing the right things. And scared that I am not.
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12-04-2018
02:20 PM
I have made an appointment for birth control tomorrow. Wasn't expecting to get one so quickly. And she knows that both birth control and condoms are needed.
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12-04-2018
05:33 AM
My 14 year old daughter has a boyfriend that I would consider her first love. He is a good kid and I like him. This is a whole new world for me as my 19 year old son never discussed his love life with me. The boyfriend is 2 years older. He has only had 1 other girlfriend and I am pretty positive that all aspects of this relationship is completely new to both of them. As in They were each others first kiss, both virgins etc. Just a bit of background here. I know that they have talked about going further physically and she has said that she isn't ready. He tells her that he would never push her to do anything that she doesn't want and that he would never do anything to hurt her. I have asked (and read messages) her if they have done more than kissed and she says no. I plan on putting her on birth control asap as to just be prepared. I am surprisingly calm about this situation. I have talked to her about every aspect of sex that I can possibly think of. She is as educated about it as I can make her. She knows that I don't condone it but that I am realistic enough to know that I can't prevent it. I guess I just need someone to be my sounding board here. I can't talk to anyone close to us because I don't want them knowing her business. My husband doesn't want to know any specifics. This boy is sweet as can be to her. I don't think I could have handpicked a better person. He treats her with respect, cares about her and wants to protect her. I dont know if I should be worried and concerned or respect the situation as they are being very mature about it. Calm...yet freaked out.
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| Date Registered | 12-04-2018 05:03 AM |
| Date Last Visited | 12-05-2018 03:31 PM |
| Total Messages Posted | 6 |
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