My 14 year old daughter has a boyfriend that I would consider her first love. He is a good kid and I like him. This is a whole new world for me as my 19 year old son never discussed his love life with me. The boyfriend is 2 years older. He has only had 1 other girlfriend and I am pretty positive that all aspects of this relationship is completely new to both of them. As in They were each others first kiss, both virgins etc. Just a bit of background here. I know that they have talked about going further physically and she has said that she isn't ready. He tells her that he would never push her to do anything that she doesn't want and that he would never do anything to hurt her. I have asked (and read messages) her if they have done more than kissed and she says no. I plan on putting her on birth control asap as to just be prepared. I am surprisingly calm about this situation. I have talked to her about every aspect of sex that I can possibly think of. She is as educated about it as I can make her. She knows that I don't condone it but that I am realistic enough to know that I can't prevent it. I guess I just need someone to be my sounding board here. I can't talk to anyone close to us because I don't want them knowing her business. My husband doesn't want to know any specifics. This boy is sweet as can be to her. I don't think I could have handpicked a better person. He treats her with respect, cares about her and wants to protect her. I dont know if I should be worried and concerned or respect the situation as they are being very mature about it. Calm...yet freaked out.
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