Hi so sorry I only respond now as I have been so occupied with the festive season and obviously tried spending all my free time with my Grand daughter - Thank you so much for your support and advice and I am so happy to let you know the new year has started off which seems like a much more positive note. We have seeked professional help and are in the process of arranging therapy sessions to help her when she feels unloved and rejected. We are not in Australia - we are in South Africa - we will use all the advice and stay on our knees🙏 I will keep you posted. ... View more

Hi there apologies for the late reply due toFestive time and wanting to spend as much quality time as family together.  Your support and advice meant so much thank you!  Yes I do agree to the Drs recommendation to go to a good Boarding School facility and they are all in agreement that the Mother is fully responsible for the financial responsibilities going with such a decision as she is employed and have the means of doing so. I have over the holidays discussed the possibility of going to a boarding school with my grand daughter not saying it will be a definite as we are still awaiting acceptance - at first she was very much against this as she again felt no one loves her and is trying to send her away - but after explaining all the benefits of a fresh start not being exposed to all the emotional abuse and new friends etc she has showed that she is willing to go there but made it clear she would prefer not to have contact with her Mother again. the Mother is in agreement with this recommendation as she feels her daughter and parental responsibilities is now off her shoulders and she is free to have her social life back. i have been kept in the loop of all the above and issues mentioned previously by the foster mom with whom I have a very good relationship. I am not able to take my Granddaughter in full time due to work commitments and of course our age. social workers are involved and they further recommended therapy for my Granddaughter to help her dealing with the anger and rejection. should she be accepted at this very good school she will be spending time off and school holidays between myself and the foster mother.   One thing we noticed over the holidays is that there are still a lot of anger and rejection that she needs to deal with.  She still feels unloved but knows and thanks us all the time for being there for her and loving her.   to sum it up it does look like the new year will bring about positive changes and hopefully she will undergo the necessary counseling/therapy.   ... View more