Hey @momof2girls I struggle with this one too. Mostly because my middle child, who is 13 years old, picks on her little brother who is 8. They fight and sometimes he holds his own but often she just goads him for what seems like her own entertainment. It's very upsetting. Especially when they seem to hurt each other, Which it sounds like you have with your girls. I definitely believe in intervening and time outs. I know some parents think that letting them work it out is the best idea but my opinion is, once people start hitting they no longer know how to resolve the conflict. So I will seperate them. I never choose sides, even when it's abundantly clear that one is wrong! I will always listen to their story without accusing them of anything. But I also try and steer them away from the details. As in, if one is telling me the story behind why they hit the other I will get them to focus on how it's not ok to hurt someone else, ever, and then discuss when they needed to come get me instead. What things do you usually try @momof2girls?
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