Thank you Jade for taking time to reply. It's true so far the requests are not unreasonable so I don't need to worry too much. As far as DBT my child did try that themselves but refused to participate as they said it didn't work for them. Family based might be a good idea but I'd have to see if they were willing or try to see if I can participate in the next session with their psychologist! The hardest thing I'm finding is the rudeness at times and irritability, consequences are difficult as I don't know what to set with them, restrictions on their phone would make sense as they are addicted but they say they need it for their mental health support. Thank you again for your response. ... View more

Hi Marimo, Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to my post. Yes indeed, their mental health challenges are very complex. I'm trying to get in touch with their mental health team to get some specific advice about recent behaviour such as being disrespectful to me by getting angry at me for little things like spilling water on them accidentally or not getting their food/snacks right ( they have anorexia so I have to be the provider). I feel like I'm walking on egg shells with them. I seem to be the one they treat the worst but their sister something gets that behaviour too. I believe I need to set consequences but I'm really not sure what consequences to set for rudeness or disrespect.... if I restrict their phone use, they immediately say they need their phone for their mental health all the time 24hours a day unlocked. If I say they will lose their privileges of visiting their girlfriend, again this will impact their mental health. I have organised a one on one counselling support for myself which is coming up in a couple of weeks, thank you for that heads up. Thank you again. ... View more