Hi @Macca ,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a tough time with your 16 year old. I can hear the frustration and exhaustion in your words, and it sounds like you've tried a lot of different options to try and get some help for your family.
I'm wondering what your support network looks like at the moment? Do you have any friends or family that are able to help out at all?
I'm sorry that you didn't find the counselling helpful, that must have been really tough. Have you had any one on one support just for yourself, so that you can have somewhere to unload and unpack some of the stress and distress this is causing you? We do have a free, confidential parent coaching service that is done either online or over the phone with a professional parenting/family coach, if that would be helpful for you? Alternatively, you could have a chat to your GP and get a mental health care plan for some sessions with a psychologist - it sounds like you've really been through a lot.
In terms of practical advice, ReachOut do have some guides about talking to kids about abuse that might be helpful for your other kids - here is one on domestic violence and teenagers , and one on managing conflict in the home . In terms of safety, do you feel like there's any risk to you or your other kids at the moment?
In terms of support for your son , I'm also wondering if your child has been connected up with any mentoring services at all? They can be a really good way for young people who aren't necessarily receptive to some kinds of intervention to find some more support. Your local Family Referral Service (This is the NSW link but there are equivalents in other states http://www.familyreferralservice.com.au/) may also be able to help out with other support services that might be able to help both you and your son.
1800 RESPECT is another really helpful service, who can give advice and counselling on abuse and violence within relationships.
How are you feeling today? It sounds like you've been travelling a really rough path, I hope the community can help to support you through this. It can take a lot of strength to post about these kind of issues, we are glad you were able to reach out here for help and I hope the community can be a helpful, safe space for you
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