Hi there, We are in the same situation where the other parent is not practicing social distancing properly. The grandparents place is central meeting place for the entire family and they still continue to have mass family gatherings, including great grandparents. Our side of the family is just my husband, myself and our other child. Step-child pick up and drop off are always at different locations depending on where their mother is on the day. We cannot do anything about it except ensure hand washing, cough hygiene etc is followed. We also change step-childs clothes and put them in the wash on arrival. No one in our family is considered vulnerable, but my husband is the sole provider and is already on reduced hours from the pandemic, and we are taking extra precaution to ensure he stays well so he can continue to work. Good luck
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Hi community, I'm seeking some advice regarding religious differences in blended families. I am not religious - I have not had much exposure to any faith as my family was not religious growing up. My husband is not religious either. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and her mother is Catholic. When they were together they did not discuss how they would bring up their daughter in relation to religious identity, but lately she has been saying things while at our place like: "Did you know Jesus made everything in the world" and things along those lines. Very basic understanding given her age (almost 5). My question is, how do we handle differences in opinion about creation and such? This is not a step mother / mother battle - this is two families with very different spiritual identities, and me and my husband asking for help to ensure we are respectful, whilst still ensuring we are true to our own beliefs as a family. In the long run being in dispute over these matters will only have a negative impact on our daughter, so some insight also on how we can incorporate some other aspects of faith into our family life (without bible teaching) would be welcomed. Thanks in advance!
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Hi Step families,
I have a step daughter. She stays with us every second weekend and every Wednesday night.
I am having trouble dealing with her behaviour, specifically defiant behaviour followed by comments like "my mum doesn't make me do that" or "my mum says....."
It's very difficult to deal with because there is history of negative behaviour from bio-mum by 'poisoning' her in regards to me and our family. some of the comments in the past have been:
"my mum says you are yucky, but don't worry I think you are nice"
"my mum says I don't have to listen to you"
"mum says i only have one home and I only visit here"
"mum says I have 2 Daddy's but only one mummy"
"mummy says she will come and pick me up any time I want and i don't have to stay here"
(let me just clarify: my relationship with my partner began after they broke up, in fact we didn't even know each other existed until he was living alone - and i have actually only had one very brief encounter with this woman. Both her and my partner have moved on and are in relationships, and both have another child in the new relationship.)
Communication with my partner and his ex is strictly via text or email.
Any advice on how I can handle my step daughter, without undermining her mother, and hurting our own relationship. It's very difficult given how nasty the ex continues to be?
Just any advice!
Trying hard, getting nowhere!
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