My step daughter and i had a fantastic relationship, but as she grew older as with all kids things became trickier and some behavioral issues developed, lying cheating stealing attitude rudeness.....nothing uncommon. At the same time as all this was starting my wife and myself had another child, then i got very sick and then by accident another child. I figured going from a 2:1 ratio being spoiled rotten to 3:1 to 2:3 when’s she’s at home now, significantly less attention was the primary cause. I also thought it would settle. If got worse and worse and the issues started happening multiple times a day to a point where i ran out of ideas how to deal with it. I found all i did with my daughter was argue and that was now our relationship. Somewhere in there she started self harming, so we immediately sought professional help and that’s been going for a little over a year and the self harming had stopped to my awareness, but the behavior issues got worse still, and then a few days ago there was a fight between her and her mother and she used some language and some name calling that bought her mother to tears, and so i voiced my opinion on the matter, that that was not acceptable, it would never happen again and there would be consequences, the whole time getting argument and excuses for the behavior. Yesterday she confessed to my wife to self harming because of it, both me and her dad were pretty angry with her, but she also admitted to considering suicide and that i was the main reason for that thought. That has caught me off guard and kept me up since wondering what’s to do about the whole situation and after 24 hrs I’ve only come up with one solution which isn’t really a solution, so needless to say am desperate for help from anyone who can add anything of value to the situation.....thanks in advance, sorry for the long post!!
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