Hi there,    I am a new step parent (1 year) to a 13 and 14 year old girls and a 17 year old boy. The 17yo has just failed year 12 and is into drugs and partying. The 14yo is just starting to get into partying. The 13yo is still lovely and easy to be around.    Over the last year the 14yo has spat the dummy and moved to her mother's house. Now, the 17yo boy has just moved to his mum's house as well. Their mum is very toxic, and says horrible things about their dad almost all the time. I can see their attitudes towards us changing because of the things she has said.    We are about to move to a new 4 bedroom house to accommodate all of them even though two of them are no longer living with us, and the third is with us 50% of the time.    My issue is that I am feeling resentment towards the kids because they just lose it and then go to the other parent when they dont get their own way. I know that within 6 months we will have at least two or maybe all three back with us at least 50% of the time. I feel used by them, I feel like they are taking the mickey, and I also feel for my husband who just seems to accept whatever the kids want to do.    My feeling is that if/when they do want to come and live with us again, that it is after a discussion with BOTH my husband and I, where some ground rules are laid and decisions are made about what it looks like. I love them all, and would love to have them with us, but not if they are just going to use and abuse and treat us poorly.    Any advice?    ... View more