Hi @FlorenceSierra ,    That sounds like such a tricky situation to navigate, especially when your blended family is relatively new.  I can understand how frustrating it must feel, especially if you feel like they will be coming and going from your house if they don't get their own way.    It sounds like setting some ground rules as a family could be a really good idea- if the kids are also involved in this, it may make them more likely to buy in to the process. This can include things like what the consequences will be if rules aren't  followed, and also what rules are non-negotiable in your household.  It's definitely one of the biggest challenges in starting a new household as a blended family - we have an article about this here, which includes a video of a step parent sharing her experiences. You mention that your stepson failed year 12, is he working or studying at the moment?    Ideally it would be good to make sure your husband is on the same page as you about this too - how do you think he'd feel about this approach?    If you think it would be helpful to chat more about this with a professional, we do offer a free one to one parents support service  in partnership with the Benevolent society. It's available to all parents and carers of young people aged 12-18 in Australia, sessions are done over the phone or online, and they can help you to work out an action plan that will work for you and your family.    Thinking of you all - step parenting can be a really challenging experience at times, but the rewards can also be huge. You're not alone - feel free to vent here any time! ... View more